Our Approach

We are very proud of our work and what we continue to do with the people that use our services. Supporting people to develop more appealing choices, achieving meaningful outcomes and building their resilience is at the heart of our work.

Our coaching style and ethos is integral to My Life Dynamic’s work. Whilst this might be a term that people are used to hearing in a sporting context, within our service we have taken coaching skills into a mental health context with great results. This means that we work with clients to achieve outcomes that are important for our clients and not imposed by us.

Developing self-resilience can be hard work, but it is worth doing

Learning how to be resilient can help people to move away from over depending on others (or services) in order to feel happy and well. After working with one of our Resilience coaches (or other Team Members) we recommend that everyone develops their own Resilience Plan. This is because no one is fully resilient the whole time and knowing how best to support ourselves when things change is a positive action to take.

The benefits of having a Resilience Plan will ;-

  • remind people of the things that can be done to develop positive perspectives if problems are beginning to prove challenging
  • acknowledge areas of emotional intelligence that might need more focus
  • help people to live life with a sense of purpose, based on the values that are important and building upon their natural strengths
  • make sure that people connect with those in their networks who are important and bring positive energy into life
  • help people to reflect on how well they are managing physical and mental energy including diet, exercise, sleep and relaxation
  • ensure people are fully aware of what to do to stay well, manage unhelpful triggers and introduce resourceful strategies for change

People that use My Life Dynamic services have new tools and techniques to regroup and sustain wellbeing for themselves, long after the work we have done with them has ended. A Resilience Plan written and owned by our client, and not us, will act as a quick reminder so that none of this learning is lost over time.

 

Things to think about when developing a Resilience Plan.

 

  • Recognise that perceptions and the way we think about challenges drives feelings, not the situation. Practice uncovering and challenging negative beliefs, empowering new, more positive beliefs
  • Seek out and attend to positive emotions
  • Step into your successes and acknowledge what you have done well
  • Take control and adopt a proactive attitude.  Focus on what you can change rather than focusing on what you cannot
  • Subject issues of concern to the chip paper test – will what is worrying you still be important tomorrow, in 3 months, in 6 months? How important really is it?
  • When worrying about something seemingly outside your control, check first that you cannot influence events in some way.  If it is really out of your control, ask yourself:
    • What’s the worst that could happen?
    • What’s the best that could happen?
    • What’s the most likely to happen?
    • What three actions will help me prepare for the most likely scenario?

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  • Acknowledge your own feelings and express them appropriately. An easy way to say this is: feel it, name it, express it
  • Find ways to help you become more aware of, and process, your own emotions. Practising mindfulness is one of many ways in which we can become more aware of our emotions

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  • Take some time to reflect on the following questions:
    • What is your purpose at work/outside of work?
    • What one thing could you start doing/do more of that would help you focus on your purpose at work/outside of work
    • What one thing could you stop doing/do less of that would have minimum negative impact but would release time that you could focus on achieving your purpose at work/outside of work
    • What is most important to you? What do you value? How does work fit/not fit with your personal values?
    • What are your strengths? How could you use more of your strengths?
  • Consider completing a personality or strengths profile to identify your strengths
  • Consider writing your own personal mission statement

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  • Make time to network with friends and colleagues and develop an extensive set of relationships that will help you through difficult times
  • Invest time in mutually supportive relationships
  • Help others, at and/or outside work
  • Social support is multi-faceted and it is worth thinking about both who is in your support network and what types of support they offer. Are you getting the different types of support that you need and, if not, where could you get that support. For example do you have people in your support network who make you feel valued and competent; challenge you and provide constructive feedback; provide support in a crisis; you feel comfortable sharing good news with; you feel comfortable sharing bad news with; introduce you to new ideas; people and interests; you just enjoy talking to; you can feel close to; you can rely on

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My Life Dynamic

Email

enquiries@mylifedynamic.org.uk

Telephone

0300 1234 677

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